Dear Goldie:

Now that I'm retired and in my senior years, I would like to spend time on hobbies, grandchildren and long-neglected interests. My problem is that my wife still sees me as that same person who should put in a full day working. She has a million things lined up for me to do. This is not my idea of a happy retirement. What can you suggest?
-L.B.

Dear L.B.:

Sometimes people reach their retirement years without recognition of aging and life changes. The only way to alter your wife's perspective is good communication. You mention grandchildren, so maybe you could get your children involved. Call a family meeting and encourage everyone to speak freely. I assure you there will be some surprises, but also greater comprehension of the existing problems. Possibly a change of scenery - a little holiday for both of you would help your relationship too.

Dear Goldie:

My husband and I had a busy life at work, as well as raising four children. We both looked forward to retirement, free of family cares and time to travel. Well, here we are at that time of anticipation and now my husband refuses to go anywhere. He is glued to the TV plus an occasional coffee break with his past working buddies. What can I do? He refuses to go anywhere for a holiday with me.
-R.S.

Dear R.S.:

Be sure your husband is in good health by speaking to his doctor about his attitude. If all is well, then you may have to change your personal retirement plans. There are senior travel companies you can contact for future holidays on your own. You may have a friend who could accompany you. If not, be assured you will meet other seniors on trips who travel on their own as well.

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